Communication

How important is communication? Lately my wife and I have been having some marital issues (Don't all Marriages!). When my first son was born my wife went through post partum (spelling?) depression. This had a profound effect on our marriage. She never got any help with this until a lot of the damage was done. She became very unreceptive in conversations/arguments. She took to yelling at me to get a point across. This became a way of life for approximately two years. I couldn't ever/still do have a hard time talking to her about anything as far as my feelings. The depression is gone but some of the habits are still around. She has been telling me that we need counseling together, I don't see where it is needed for both of us though. I have told her that I would go with her if she truly believes that we need it. I have told her that I will try very hard to begin talking to her and communicating. Some of the things that she has gotten most mad about is that while I was busy with Hurricane Katrina/Rita response I wasn't really expressing my feelings. It was a very stressful time and a lot of it was very emotional work. After all it's very hard to tell someone who is dying of dehydration that help is coming...and not be able to tell how soon or if they would get there in time. I dealt with a lot of calls like that. So I need to remember what it means to communicate with my soulmate.